Have you ever been surprised – and impressed – that someone has remembered your name?
MANTRA: I am good at remembering names because people are important to me and I enjoy speaking to people
Here are my top tips for remembering people’s names:
- Make a commitment!
If you make excuses for yourself, by saying “I’m hopeless at remembering names”, STOP! It is practically like saying “I don’t care much about people, so I can’t even be bothered to remember names. Do you really want to be perceived as being that arrogant?.
2. Use their name immediately in conversation. You have a much better chance of remembering a name if you address someone using their name either in the conversation or perhaps to introduce them to someone else. It doesn’t have to sound corny if you are comfortable with it. The only way to get comfortable with it, is by practicing this easy technique ASAP.
3. Say the name in your head! Whilst the conversation has turned to something less interesting, try to remind yourself of the names of the people you have just been introduced to.
4. Make a Note. Crossing the mid line of the body activates the brain, so simply by writing down a name, you have a much better chance of remembering it, plus you have a cheatsheet if you need it. If you are at a conference or similar, make a note at the back of your notes so that you can address people personally using their names. It feels great if someone can remember you name, especially if there are a lot of new names and faces in the room.
5. Make a Connection. Nobody wants to feel like a number so using someone’s name makes a big difference, so what is it that you can think about to help you make a connection. If you are a visual person look at their appearance and try to make a name/appearance connection “That’s Steve with the handkerchief, very smart is Steve”. It might he the way they speak, stand, lean in or smiles. Make a connection.
Making a good impression starts with getting people’s names right!
6. Following up. By calling, emailing or texting and using that names, gives your brain a chance to recall and remember the name. What information could you give them, who could you connect them with, what could you ask them? Keeping people on your radar is good relationship building practice but by seeing their name in your inbox, addressing the email to them, using their name in the text of the email, each one of those is a memory jogging action and brings you closer to the person in question. If all else fails, share an interesting article, but do something to get onto their radar and to get your name in their brain too.
7. Say it right, spell it right. In my podcast I talk about how people say my name. It’s often not right, so listen to the way that they say it, never assume you know how to say a name and get the spelling right too. I am always staggered at the amount of people that reply to an email (with my name in the signature file at the bottom) with my name spelled as Corrine, Corraine, Corin, Corinna … the list goes on, but my name is spelled Corinne.
8. Ask again. If you cannot remember how to say or spell a name or you have completely forgotten the name all together, just ask, it is better to face that slight embarassment for a moment and build a stronger connection with that person in the long term than letting your pride get in your way.
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